What does it mean to you to be sensual?  To be a sensual woman?  Is “sensual”  a term you are comfortable with, or does it seem intimidating or mysterious?  Something to stay away from? If you are like me, the word “sensual” can be disconcerting.  It can conjure up images of magazine perfect bodies, of being “sexy,” or having to live up to something.  But sensuality is not a standard or expectation at all.  In fact it is about being you, exactly as you are, in your body, enjoying your senses and engrossing in the joy of this

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A couple of years ago I had a girlfriend approach me and give me some feedback that was painful and hard to hear.  She said she felt that I was always trying to fix her when she expressed negative emotions and she was starting to feel unsafe to share all of herself with me. I took this hard as I have always thought of myself as a compassionate person and didn’t want anything but for her to feel safe with me.  When I looked at the situation I knew there was

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I have a conundrum.  I am stepping into my calling as a mentor in sensuality and pleasure and I am running a business as a solo entrepreneur.  The two are sometimes in direct conflict.  Business is demanding.  There are deadlines, meetings, appointments, ways I need to show up and hurry up!  At the same time, I am teaching clients to feel more, to connect more, to get into their bodies and to focus on pleasure… So I have a question for you.  What brings you more pleasure?  To go very fast? Or to go very slow? I am coming

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Question:  what does a man want?  Answer: to make a woman happy. And how to make a man happy?  Answer:  allow him to make you happy! Yep, women, this means you have to ask for what you want.   I know, I know…it would be such bliss if he started spontaneously picking up around the house when you were overwhelmed and stressed out.  Or if he knew your body so well and he could read all your clues and bring you endless hours of pleasure in the bedroom every time…… I used to stew

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This week I want to talk about touch.  Touch has so many benefits for health. For one it releases oxytocin, the “cuddle hormone.” This produces a sense of trust and positive connection.  It also lowers cortisol levels, thus lowering stress in your body.  It reduces pain and boosts your immune system! So why aren’t we all going around cuddling and touching each other more? The other day at the swimming pool I realized how touch taboos are so tied to culture.  Because it is not uncommon to see Korean or Chinese women doing self care in the steam room, tapping their faces, stimulating energy meridians, massaging themselves.  In

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