Let’s face it – we are living in a society where sex is covert, underground, and inappropriate to speak about.  None of us had excellent role models or teachers of sexuality.  I’m sure you have your own stories of lack of education, mixed messages, and overall taboo on the subject.  It’s no wonder you are stuck when it comes to sex. One of the problems this creates is that we are not slowing down to feel all that is there to feel in the experience.  And the so-called “normal” forms of sexual expression are

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Have you ever started avoiding sex because it feels like too much work? Or do you have the experience of going through the motions but not being very turned on? One of the 8 reasons for low desire in women is lack of emotional safety.  Here’s the deal:  you need to feel SAFE in order to feel turned on!  If you are a woman, you have certain qualities that need to be acknowledged to feel received and loved.  It’s in feeling honoured in your femininity that your body opens up. In this video I share with

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Are you worried that talking will break the mood?  Do you want to be able to connect without having to tell your partner what to do, or what you like?  After all, that’s how it happens in the beginning…..   The honeymoon stage of a relationship is a burst of chemical attraction.  Chemical attraction makes almost anything and everything feel great.  Then it’s so frustrating and disappointing when the honeymoon stage doesn’t last.  We discover that our partners are not mind readers after all!   That’s when talking comes in!  There’s a lot to say on

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Are you interested in more emotional connection, more intimacy, and more heartfelt communication during sex? Less sensation, physicality and purely mechanical sex? For me, learning to have “sex without the sex part” has been one of the most wonderful aspects of my intimacy healing journey over the past few years. Before I had all the tools in my toolkit that I have now , the best part of physical connection for me was pretty much everything else besides intercourse.  Now, however, when everything else is done right, intercourse is the best

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Do you struggle to maintain your weight?  Do you spend a lot of time on your self- image and still not feel attractive?   Body image is a huge cause in feeling low desire for sex.  How easy is it to be turned on when you don’t consider yourself sexy?  You might have the hottest most sexually adept and awesome partner on the planet.  But if you don’t feel good about yourself it’s not going to matter. And why don’t you feel good about yourself? Because there is a presiding lie in society that

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