Many women associate menstruation, pregnancy and menopause as times of low sexual desire.  Is it really true?  Is your desire for sex really low during these times? Or is it what you’ve been fed (yet again) by society? Last fall I wrote a blog called “8 Reasons You May Be Experiencing Low Desire.”  I have been since recording videos for you.  If you didn’t read that blog you can find it here. So, ok, we can’t ignore the fact that hormonal balance does affect chemical libido.  I can attest to it myself.  I

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Have you ever heard the advice for couples to never go to bed angry? My husband and I used to have that rule.  It was difficult at times when we didn’t have time to connect until just before bed.  Disagreements and grievances arose and we could sometimes be talking until 1 am.  All the verbal processing left us exhausted.   The other day I remarked and how much easier we move through arguments with our new somatic tools.  My husband and I were having a financial meeting, which is always

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I was sitting in the sauna at the gym last week reflecting on my intimacy experiences of the weekend. For the past 6 months or so, my partner and I have been saying: “that was the best sex ever.” “Actually no that was the best sex ever.” ” Is there any limit to how good this gets?”  We kept on hitting new upper limits, going higher and higher. But now I was feeling down on myself.   I was down on myself because I’m a conscious sexuality mentor.  I’m about to

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To me, sexual sovereignty is a deep healing call.  It is a call to the breakdown of marriage for economic means, the breakdown of colonization, the release of transactional “power-over,” in short; a call to a total re-organization of society. Have you encountered that dull (or maybe sharp) fear when you really stand your ground?  When you “change the rules”?  When you claim and care for your feelings in the moment no matter how it affects others? The old cultural program says that women are not free and need men to survive.  And that women cannot freely pursue

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Reuben and I are super excited to be offering the upcoming Tantra For Couples Introductory Evening on Wednesday January 23rd at Vitality Yoga Studio. At the intro we will be sharing about what Tantra is, a bit about our story, and what you can expect from the 4-Week class beginning on January 30th.  It will be experiential as well as a lecture.  No experience necessary. If you and your partner would like some input and inspiration on how to make your intimacy life more easeful, more connected, and more amazing, this event

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