Does this sound familiar? Sex builds toward a climax and then crashes over, like a wave. It is a linear ride with a destination or peak, and then a fall downward. But what about when one person needs to slow down, the other needs to speed up, someone needs a break, the doorbell rings, someone gets upset, someone has an orgasm before the other, etc… This is real life! My husband and I have been watching the fictionalized TV show about the work of Masters and Johnson called Masters of
There are 4 people in every relationship. You, your partner, your partner’s inner child, and your inner child. That’s one reason why having kids can be so stressful sometimes. It doesn’t seem like there is any room for you or your partner’s inner child anymore. All the care and comforting and play can be going into the actual children. But even in a partnership of two, it is hard to let the inner children out to feel and play and express. One of the coaching tools I use with couples is
In January I made the first of many video blogs. It was called Saying Yes to Pleasure. I’m finally following up with another video. This one is on the power of sound. Many of you know about my background with sound, as an energy healer and singer/songwriter/recording artist. Sound is very powerful for connecting on an emotional, non-verbal level. When it comes to the area of relationships, sound is tool for self-development as well as deepening with a partner. Most people have shyness around opening their voice. This is a cultural issue.
Do you struggle with asserting and communicating boundaries during lovemaking? Does your lack of boundary setting lead to resentment and discord? Do you wonder why you sometimes don’t feel a boundary until later on? I have been contemplating why boundaries are such a tricky issue for women. In my own relationship of over 20 years, there has been mask-wearing and fear of rocking the boat or upsetting the status quo. Until recently I didn’t have the support, resources, or alternatives to fill in the gap of me saying “no.” No – and
Did you know that any emotion can make sex better? Anger. Fear. Grief. Exhuberance. Shyness. Playfulness. Hesitancy. Whatever you are feeling in the moment. It is all part of being human. Emotions bring vulnerability and honesty, making human connection and sex so rich and satisfying. I was talking to a family member recently who was annoyed at how women are always portrayed in sex scenes in movies. She said “it’s just unrealistic!” While Hollywood and the porn industry seem to be in cahoots, who actually feels, acts, or looks like the women on screen? What we actually look like