Did you know that bonding chemicals are actually released from eye gazing?  We are neurologically wired to respond to another human being when we look into their eyes.  I remember doing sustained eye gazing with my partner at a tantra workshop for the first time a couples of years ago.  The teacher had to come around and actually tell us to stop talking.  Our relationship had become one of thinking.  The urge to talk was a knee jerk reaction.  It was comfortable.  Just pure eye gazing felt very vulnerable. But eye gazing

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Do you want to live a passionate life?  Do you want to thrive? How is this possible if you are not happy with your sex life?  Whether you want a little, a lot, or none at all, whether you want something more or less or different, sweeping your desires under the carpet will stifle your life energy. What is sex?  Why does it matter?  Why bother? Sex is a great way of playing.  It is a dance of creativity, a way to bond emotionally; a way to connect and stay connected to each other.

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Animals bond. Humans bond. Humans are animals.   If you watch animals in nature there is a dance that occurs. Members of a group weave in and out of connection. Both bonding and individuation counterbalance.  Bonding occurs as a source of reassurance, play and survival.  And individuals choose when to connect and with whom. In a couple, the dance of bonding is more of a complex negotiation.  When there are mainly two, bonding styles may be different.  The two must learn and carefully communicate preferences.  They must learn each other’s signals

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  It is so important to tell your lover how you like to be loved.  Both loved, and seduced. I know it flies in the face of what we would all like to believe.  Connection is supposed to be spontaneous, natural, romantic and passionate, like in the movies.  If our partner really loved us, they would know what to do! I have been with my husband for over 20 years and we are just starting to figure some things out about each other.  It’s because we have started talking about everything. 

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Step 1: Attunement Whenever you approach a woman, notice her body language, her face expression, her rhythm of breathing, her tone of voice. What emotion does she seem to be experiencing? What does she seem to be wanting? Is it cuddling, eye gazing, or words of appreciation? Or maybe some high energy fun like laughing, wrestling, being silly?  A compassionate listening ear? Step 2: Start With Whole Body Connected Touch In order to help a woman open up, she needs touch all over her body.  She wants to feel that

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I want to share with you what I love about tantra. Tantra is something I highly recommend for healing your sexuality. On the one hand, it has become a popularized new fad, like yoga. In fact it is a form of yoga that works directly with sexual energy. Whether self-directed and self practiced only, or whether practiced with a partner, the goal of tantra is both connection and clarity of perception. It is important to choose your source carefully when learning tantra, because of the plethora of versions that are

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