I have been hearing what an intense time a lot of people are having right now. I thought maybe it was me because I am in the throes of packing and entering a major life transition, but it seems that for everyone that anything “untrue” right now is being tested and held to the light. It is getting harder and harder to wear a mask and to hold up walls. I believe it’s because the earth needs us to drop into our authentic selves. No more lying and trying and being

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As you’re reading this, I am packing up a storm.   Reuben and I are moving to Nelson on July 31st, a dream of ours that is finally happening! Since the big move is right around the corner, your Love Empowerment emails will be a little shorter and sweeter for the next while… But don’t worry, I have some very exciting goodies that will be arriving to your inbox starting this Fall!  “For love, we will climb mountains, cross seas, traverse desert sands, and endure untold hardships. Without love, mountains become unclimbable, seas uncrossable, deserts unbearable, and

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Does this sound familiar?  Sex builds toward a climax and then crashes over, like a wave.  It is a linear ride with a destination or peak, and then a fall downward.  But what about when one person needs to slow down, the other needs to speed up, someone needs a break, the doorbell rings, someone gets upset, someone has an orgasm before the other, etc…   This is real life! My husband and I have been watching the fictionalized TV show about the work of Masters and Johnson called Masters of

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There are 4 people in every relationship.  You, your partner, your partner’s inner child, and your inner child.  That’s one reason why having kids can be so stressful sometimes.  It doesn’t seem like there is any room for you or your partner’s inner child anymore.  All the care and comforting and play can be going into the actual children.  But even in a partnership of two, it is hard to let the inner children out to feel and play and express. One of the coaching tools I use with couples is

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Do you struggle with asserting and communicating boundaries during lovemaking? Does your lack of boundary setting lead to resentment and discord? Do you wonder why you sometimes don’t feel a boundary until later on? I have been contemplating why boundaries are such a tricky issue for women.  In my own relationship of over 20 years, there has been mask-wearing and fear of rocking the boat or upsetting the status quo. Until recently I didn’t have the support, resources, or alternatives to fill in the gap of me saying “no.”  No – and

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This week I am sending you some resources for tantra. If you are interested in spirituality integrated with sexuality, if you are interested in sex as a pathway to greater love, connection, healing and life-transformation from the inside out, this is for you! There are a lot of tantra teachers out there these days.  Some tantra and neo-tantra paths are serving the purpose of simply helping people get out of repression, shame and shut down around sex.  Other paths are rooted in ancient tradition and go very deep. From my own experience so far, practicing tantric

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