This week I am sending you some resources for tantra. If you are interested in spirituality integrated with sexuality, if you are interested in sex as a pathway to greater love, connection, healing and life-transformation from the inside out, this is for you! There are a lot of tantra teachers out there these days. Some tantra and neo-tantra paths are serving the purpose of simply helping people get out of repression, shame and shut down around sex. Other paths are rooted in ancient tradition and go very deep. From my own experience so far, practicing tantric
Do you ever want to connect with your partner, but are just not in the mood? Do you ever feel stuck because you don’t want to disappoint? Or do you really want to connect but something is in the way? Here are 3 reasons why you may not be in the mood: 1) Your body is not dialed in. Living so much these days in our heads, with our eyes glued to computer screens, we live outside our bodies and in our minds. We also live with a high level of stress. Sex, which
Did you know that bonding chemicals are actually released from eye gazing? We are neurologically wired to respond to another human being when we look into their eyes. I remember doing sustained eye gazing with my partner at a tantra workshop for the first time a couples of years ago. The teacher had to come around and actually tell us to stop talking. Our relationship had become one of thinking. The urge to talk was a knee jerk reaction. It was comfortable. Just pure eye gazing felt very vulnerable. But eye gazing
Do you want to live a passionate life? Do you want to thrive? How is this possible if you are not happy with your sex life? Whether you want a little, a lot, or none at all, whether you want something more or less or different, sweeping your desires under the carpet will stifle your life energy. What is sex? Why does it matter? Why bother? Sex is a great way of playing. It is a dance of creativity, a way to bond emotionally; a way to connect and stay connected to each other.
Animals bond. Humans bond. Humans are animals. If you watch animals in nature there is a dance that occurs. Members of a group weave in and out of connection. Both bonding and individuation counterbalance. Bonding occurs as a source of reassurance, play and survival. And individuals choose when to connect and with whom. In a couple, the dance of bonding is more of a complex negotiation. When there are mainly two, bonding styles may be different. The two must learn and carefully communicate preferences. They must learn each other’s signals
It is so important to tell your lover how you like to be loved. Both loved, and seduced. I know it flies in the face of what we would all like to believe. Connection is supposed to be spontaneous, natural, romantic and passionate, like in the movies. If our partner really loved us, they would know what to do! I have been with my husband for over 20 years and we are just starting to figure some things out about each other. It’s because we have started talking about everything.