Did you know that any emotion can make sex better?  Anger. Fear.  Grief.  Exhuberance. Shyness.  Playfulness.  Hesitancy.  Whatever you are feeling in the moment. It is all part of being human. Emotions bring vulnerability and honesty, making human connection and sex so rich and satisfying. I was talking to a family member recently who was annoyed at how women are always portrayed in sex scenes in movies.  She said “it’s just unrealistic!” While Hollywood and the porn industry seem to be in cahoots, who actually feels, acts, or looks like the women on screen? What we actually look like

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One of the best and brightest parts of my recent healing journey has been doing regular ecstatic dance.  I usually dance in my living room for an extended time at least once per week. I also go to Dance Divine on Sunday mornings, a conscious dance event in Vancouver. Letting my body move without judging it or comparing it to others is so freeing.  And sometimes I discover parts of myself that I don’t like or that make me feel uncomfortable. Recently, when I was dancing in my living room I encountered an unexpected block.  I realized

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I recently worked with a client who asked to me:  How do I know the line between pleasure and sex?  How do I know what is sexual touch or purely pleasurable?  I want to address this question.  It’s a biggie. As women, we have been socialized away from pleasure. We are oriented toward care taking and watching out for community and family. When pleasure comes our way it can be difficult to receive it. We get distracted with thoughts like:  Is everyone okay? Will dinner be ready? Is my partner ok with this?  Alternately, we

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Why thrive? Why show up? Because there is a great hunger needing to be fed. Author, Dr. Tererai Trent talks about it in her book Awakened Woman.  All of your little hungers are driven by your great hunger.  It is what gets you out of bed in the morning.  It is what keeps you going toward your dreams.  It is what keeps you working at something day in and day out.  It is why you came here. What breaks your heart?  Sit with this question for a few days. While you are

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Do you want to live a passionate life?  Do you want to thrive? How is this possible if you are not happy with your sex life?  Whether you want a little, a lot, or none at all, whether you want something more or less or different, sweeping your desires under the carpet will stifle your life energy. What is sex?  Why does it matter?  Why bother? Sex is a great way of playing.  It is a dance of creativity, a way to bond emotionally; a way to connect and stay connected to each other.

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