Did you know that any emotion can make sex better? Anger. Fear. Grief. Exhuberance. Shyness. Playfulness. Hesitancy. Whatever you are feeling in the moment. It is all part of being human. Emotions bring vulnerability and honesty, making human connection and sex so rich and satisfying.
I was talking to a family member recently who was annoyed at how women are always portrayed in sex scenes in movies. She said “it’s just unrealistic!”
While Hollywood and the porn industry seem to be in cahoots, who actually feels, acts, or looks like the women on screen? What we actually look like is sometimes crazy and wild, sometimes quiet and inward, sometimes crying our faces off, or needing to process and just be held.
Women can’t depend on the media to show us how to be sexually. And we can’t depend on men. Because men are generally programmed by society to be shut down emotionally. Men sometimes go to sex to feel anything at all.
It’s important to be honest about your emotions during sex. It opens the door for your partner to drop into their true emotions. Once emotions are seen for what they are in the moment, they can change so quickly too! So start where you are.
Why should men be more sexual and women be more emotional anyway? Let’s heal this gender divide!
Love is your nature,