If you are like me, your societal programming did not teach you how to follow your pleasure or direct a lover… Here’s the program I got, what about you?  Find THE ONE. When you find them, they are supposed to GIVE you pleasure Oh, and they are supposed to automatically know how to give you the EXACT KIND of pleasure you like… If not, they are not in fact THE ONE! Could anything be further from the truth?  That a man in particular just knows how to please a woman?  And that there is just one

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I spent 3 weeks in nature with my partner this summer…and we survived!   In the next few emails I will share with you some of the lessons and adventures that we received from our amazing 3 week camping trip in the Valhalla wilderness, where we had to canoe across the lake to get supplies when we ran out of food!   This was probably the most powerful & spiritual relationship experience yet of my life. Here was our home on the lake for 3 weeks: With Covid this spring, Reuben and I both felt strongly

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How is your heart? How is your life feeling in this strange new world we are in? I know that emotions have been running high in my household. I have found it harder than usual be kind all the time; to use my best relationship and communication skills. At the same time, I have been feeling incredibly grateful for my partner and for all the tools we do have to create relationship harmony. Are you struggling with being confined? Finding that your relationship issues are coming up? Are you feeling

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It’s almost Valentine’s Day! What calls to you on Valentine’s Day? For a lot of people V-Day can bring up the pressure to be romantic, to say the right thing, to do the right thing. For others it can bring up sadness and longing to be with an ideal partner. For some others it’s a fun opportunity to shower your beloved with treats and pampering, to splurge on a fancy hotel, dinner, dancing, gifts. Whether or not you are in a great relationship, or want to be in one, or

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In my work with individuals and couples I experience so many different expressions of gender and sexual orientation. More and more people are coming out with their own version and label of where they are on the “rainbow.” And coming out with what it means to them uniquely. I was so inspired last spring to hear a two-spirit First Nations Elder speaking an introduction at a multi artist burlesque show. He shared that two spirits are honoured in their culture as carriers of great wisdom. They carry gifts and are

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