Whether or not you want sex to be sacred or spiritual, whether or not you want to learn tantra or conscious sexuality, and whether or not you want to take your relationship to the next level, one thing is for sure: everyone wants to FEEL something from sex! Here’s the interesting part: we all want … Read more
What does pleasure look like for you? What does the word “pleasure” bring up? When I looked up the root of the word pleasure in French and Latin, what struck me was that “pleasure” and “plea” come from the same root. Plea is the desire, the call. Pleasure is the answer, or the desire met. Thus, … Read more
Do you ever find yourself spinning in the same old pattern in relationship? Do you get into the same argument over and again and don’t know how to get out of it? Do you rack your brains wondering what creates this vicious circle? I see couples every week for coaching who have reached a stalemate … Read more
Question: What do you get when you bring 4 women to the woods in the middle of nowhere for a weekend? Answer: Topless dancing, swimming, hiking, soaking in natural hot springs, gourmet meals, lots of laughter and not quite enough sleep! But seriously… These women and I have been journeying together for 3 years now. We meet for … Read more
How much do you prioritize pleasure in your life? When do you focus on it? And what is the challenge for you in prioritizing pleasure? Do you focus instead on: Productivity Survival Relationship Harmony (not rocking the boat) These were my top 3 biggies. I needed to be turned toward pleasure. To be told I … Read more
Reuben and I are getting ready to teach a 4-week Tantra for Couples course in Nelson, starting Wednesday June 5th and I wanted to take this opportunity to share with you my excitement for Tantra and what it has done for us! For us, there is now a clear distinction between “conventional sex” and “tantric” (or conscious) sex. Going … Read more
It was Saturday of Easter Weekend. I had about three different offers coming my way for how to spend the evening. Friends, family, out at a karaoke club, partner. But I had to admit I was feeling plain tired. I was also feeling grumpy that I didn’t have more energy to socialize. I knew that … Read more
The numbers are in. According to the latest Statistics Canada data, approximately 38 per cent of all marriages end in divorce. In the US, the rate is more like 40-50%. In a survey of 200 people done by Trustify in 2018, 55% of male respondents cheated on their spouse with five or more people 50% … Read more
It disheartens me how much natural sexual expression is thwarted. Sexual energy is so precious and sacred. Yet most of us flail around in the bedroom, looking for a “role” to play. Do you fake orgasm? Do you egg your partner on so sex can be over and done with? Do you have sex because your partner wants to even though you … Read more
Intimacy means “Into-Me-You-See.” I recently asked my partner of over 20 years to tell me what is the heart of intimacy. My partner closed his eyes for several seconds and shared this: “The heart of intimacy is being able to go into your highest highs and lowest lows in the presence of another. And being able … Read more